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Decisions Decisions...

The next chapter of your life is just one decision away...
Do I leave or do I stay? Do I speak up or do I stay silent? To I apologize, or do I stay angry?
We all make a million choices every day. We choose what we wear, eat, which way to take to work, to get out of bed, what to watch on netflix, to smile or frown.  

Those aren't the choices I am talking about. 
 I am talking about are the big ones. The ones we avoid like the plague. The ones that are going to hurt no matter what we choose. 
You know which one I'm talking about. The one that came to your mind just now. 
Yeah... That one. 
We avoid making THOSE choices.
We numb. 
We would rather kill ourselves in the limbo of indecision because the fear of a solid finality of a choice is too much to handle. 
So we avoid. We dream about a life beyond but refuse to make a choice.
The unknown is scary.  
Fear of regret is real. 
But here's the truth. Those dreams that you have are real. That job that you want exists. That special person who takes your breath away will see you. That ideal body is in your grasp. The ability to stop letting fear win... It all starts with one choice. 
One decision.  
That is the key to finding happiness and getting those things you've been dreaming about. 
1) Be honest with yourself. I mean really honest with yourself. You will know deep down what you need to do. The first start is admitting and facing how you are really feeling. 
2)Now you have to do something about it. You can go on ignoring, numbing, and avoiding but you will stay miserable in limbo. . Get out of that relationship. Admit you have a problem. Start looking for a new job. Ask the girl out. Go to the gym you've been looking at and ask for information. You've got this... I promise. 

I know what you're thinking. What if I fail? What if I make the wrong decision? 

I challenge you to take a look at what you've been through in your life so far. What obstacles have you faced? What have you over come? Did you make the wrong decision sometimes? Absolutely. Did you eventually become a better or stronger person because of it though? Yes. Making a decision, and maybe it being the wrong one, but learning from it is better than never making any decisions at all. 
You can do this. Believe in yourself. You've got this. Now go and do what you need to do. 

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So tired of being tired...

So tired of being tired...


I'm just so tired...

When I ask people on a daily basis how they are, I get a bunch of answers. But the one answer that keeps repeating itself is: I'm just tired.

Everyone is tired, and not just from lack of sleep. People are tired of failing, tired of hatred, tired of politics. Tired of being let down or heartbroken, tired of feeling worried or inadequate, or tired of working hard to barely make ends meet.

We are all tired. During the last few years of my life, I've been exhausted.  And more than that, I was tired of always being tired.  When I met my mentor, Jeff Kaylor, one of the first things he asked me was, "How are you?!?"

I'll give you one guess as to my answer.
"I'm really tired.”
Later that night, Jeff challenged me...He said "Kate, I want you to stop telling people you’re tired. Just try it. See what happens."

So I spent the next few days completely focused on not saying how tired I was. Instead, anytime anyone asked me how I was, I said I was great. I focused on the positive things in my life.  And after a few days, it wasn't as hard to not say I was tired, because suddenly... I wasn't anymore.

And that is my challenge to you, my dear friends. I know you are tired, we all are.  I want to challenge you to stop saying you're tired. Instead replace it with you're great or thankful. You're not being dishonest, you're still allowed to be tired, but now you are choosing to change your way of thinking. You’re choosing to focus on the good instead of the negative.

By doing this, I promise, you're life will start to take a shift for the better.  It's time to wake up, my friends. Rise and be the incredible human you are, because YOU ARE incredible.

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Freedom from the Greener Grass

Freedom from the Greener Grass


We've all been there.


We applied for a job or a show that we really wanted and we didn't get it. Intead they gave it to someone else. You've been trying to get pregnant and yet everyone on facebook seems to be posting baby announcemets. You've been on several horrible dates and have lost your faith in love, and that same person who stole your job opportunity tells you how they have met the love of their life and they found it when they "just weren't looking for it".


The grass really does always seem greener on the other side of the screen. We get on facebook and all we seem to see is what everyone else is achieving, We are reminded of what we don't have. I can't tell you how may times I have not been cast in a show or watched someone else achieve something, and instead of being joyful for their accomplishement, I just felt jealous.  As much as I hated that about myself, it was really hard to change.

For me, It was hard realizing I was 28 and not married.  All of my friends were getting engaged. I never realized how bad it was until my best friend told me she was going to be nervous to tell me when she got engaged.  That was a huge wake up call for me.  I would never want my best friend to ever feel like I wouldn't support her.  I have spent my life wanting to encourage people, and instead I let my bitterness and envy cloud my thoughts and actions. 

Believe me, when you feel those pangs of jelousy... you  not alone.  No it may not always seem fair, but here is the truth...

Those opportunties weren't meant for you.

On the flip side, the blessings in your own life weren't meant for anyone else but you. 

Here's the beautiful thing:Other people's successes do not diminish your own success.

Just because another girl is pretty does not make me any less beautiful. We have to get out of this comparing mindset and realize that your life is exactly that... YOUR life.  It's YOUR journey. Nobody else can write your story except you.  You were given your passion on purpose.

So what can we do to turn that "grass is always greener" mentality to "grass or no grass... I am grateful"

1) Check your thoughts. When you find yourself being jealous of someone  else's accomplishments or success, congratulate them. Put kindness and humility into the world. You'll find you will be more grateful for the things you have in your own life when you congradulate others on their accomplishments.

2) If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.  It happens when sometimes we just can't be or aren't happy about something or someone.  And THAT'S OKAY!!! The trick is learning the art of keeing it to yourself and not dragging their name through the mud.  You're the much bigger person by admitting you're not happy about it to yourself but no retaliating. Refuse to let anything diminish your greatness... because you ARE great!

3) I've said it before... make a gratitude journal. Write down the incredible blessings that ARE in your life so that you have something to remind you when it's hard to remember the good things that you DO have.

You're not alone, my dear one.

We're digging through this messy thing called life together. Let me remind you, you ARE enough. You ARE worthy. You ARE a force to be reckoned with.

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Fear... and how to make it shrink

Fear... and how to make it shrink

"No way man."
"I'm too scared... you go first." 
"I'm afraid."


Fear is the driving force behind so many of our choices and actions. It's the reason we avoid, numb, lie, hide, and run. 

We all have fears. I struggle with the fear of being too much to handle. 
I've had one too many people tell me, "Kate, you're just...a lot." I hate making people uncomfortable, so imagine how it feels to have someone tell you that who you are is just...too much. 
I'm also afraid of dying alone, but we'll tackle that fear another time. 

Many of our fears form from past experiences. We don't want to experience a time of pain and suffering like we once did. The memory of the pain is enough to stop us in our tracks. 
What incredible opportunities are you missing by allowing fear to dictate your life? 

  • You had your heart broken, so you don't pursue that person who just might be your perfect match. 
  • You were fired from a job you poured everything into, so you don't apply for your dream position. 
  • Your mom or dad told you that you weren't good enough and wouldn't amount to anything, so you don't apply to college.

How do we overcome these seemingly insurmountable limits created by our fears? How do we stop letting them control our decisions and actions? 
(What I'm about to share with you slowly by surely helped me overcome fear. Don't get me wrong, I still feel fear, but with these I continue to move forward despite every fearful thought and feeling telling me no.) 

1. Come Up With a Mantra. It could be anything; the Lord's Prayer, the serenity prayer, counting to 10, a chant...anything that you can repeat over and over to yourself to reset your thinking when fear is creeping in. I was raised with the Lord's Prayer, so that's usually my go-to. It helps me refocus my thoughts and reminds me that ultimately, I'm okay.

2. Know Who Your Real Friends Are. Real friends are the special friends who love and know you well enough to know what you need to hear. They are the ones who will help ease you out of the cage of fear and can give you the confidence you need to be brave. They are the friends who will celebrate the victories with you, and speak grace and kindness in the times when you fall short. Lean on these friends. They help bring light to the terrifying darkness fear brings. 

3. Reward yourself on the small victories against fear. Sometimes just standing up to fear and making the decision to make a change is a victory in itself. Do something special for yourself when you act out of courage against fear. Treat yourself!!! This is huge. 

We all have the power to overcome our fears. It may not happen quickly or easily, but when you're standing on the other side looking at how far you've come in your journey you'll realize just how much stronger you are than ANY fear. 


You are brave.
You are enough.
You are a force to be reckoned with.

Take up your sword, gladiator. It's fear that should be afraid of YOU!

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